Thursday, May 22, 2008

Goodbye, Dad

Dad passed away May 17.

Thomas and I hopped a plane on a Tuesday -- I think it was the 6th. We bought round-trip tickets planning to return the following Tuesday. We gave up our tickets. (Hotwire is nonrefundable.) We ended up returning just tonight.

This trip cost us a couple thousand dollars that we didn't have, but it was priceless. We got to spend the final weeks with dad.

I had the honor of taking him outside for his last cigar. Dad enjoyed watching Thomas climb a tree on the grounds. We all enjoyed talks while he could, and then later just holding hands.

Dad was moved from the hospital to the VA. We were so impressed with the care he received.

I am numb, exhausted, and sad beyond belief. I am relieved that dad is not suffering any longer, though.

Driving home from the airport tonight, Thomas stated that he felt as if a part of him died. I feel the same way.

My heart aches.


Carole said...


Our thoughts and prayers have been, and will continue to be with you. I'm glad you and Thomas were able to be with your Dad, priceless memories.


Juno said...

Oh Frankie, I am so sorry. (((((HUGS))))) I have been thinking about you quite frequently. Getting the spend the time with your dad was a great gift for both you and Thomas and I am so happy you had that opportunity.

Sending cyber hugs from Iowa!


Mama B said...


Know that my thoughts have been and continue to be with you and yours. That is a beautiful photo of him with Thomas.

contemplator said...


I'm so sorry. There really aren't adequate things to say when this happens, even if you've been there before. I'm sorry.

Wisteria said...

I'm so happy you got to spend the last few weeks with your Dad. I'm thinking of you.

Heather said...

I'm so sorry, Frankie. I hope the time spent with him these last couple of weeks can help comfort you. ((HUGS))

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you were able to be there and that Thomas had the opportunity to be with you both. I will keep you in my thoughts during your time of grief and healing.

mull-berry said...

My thoughts are with you. Glad you had safe travel.

Hillary said...

I'm so sorry for your loss!

What a blessing that you were able to spend his last weeks with him.

KaKei said...

I am so sorry.

My mother died May 10th after a long illness. It broke my heart.

It is strange, that even though this is the way it should be, it still is so devastating.

Kate in NJ said...

((Big Hugs))
You have been in my thoughts,
I am glad you and Thomas were able to spend that time with your Dad.

Summer Fae said...


I am very sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my thoughts. I am glad that you got to spend that precious time with him.


Elisheva Hannah Levin said...

Oh, Frankie--

I am so sad for you. It has been a long hard year with many losses.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in your grief and mourning. May your dad's memory be for a blessing!

PS: I love the picture of Thomas and his grandfather. There is resemblance in the faces!

SabrinaT said...

bless your heart!! Sending prayers your way. What a gift for you all to spend that time with your dad!